Terri at ragsagainstthemachine has a fun topic going on her blog about choosing bridal gowns and mother-of-the-bride dresses.
I decided to scan some old photos and share a few stories about weddings in our family.
I was married right out of high school and wore a Gunne Sak eyelet long dress that I bought at a department store. The dress was perfect and I still have it. The marriage was a disaster and didn't last very long (as everyone predicted). These are now called EFM's (early first marriages). I hear everyone should have one.
So.....moving along.........this is me in my (counting now 31 years) marriage. We got married at Christmas time in my mom and step-dad's 100 year old house. I made my skirt and vest and all of the floral arrangements. A friend brought a cake. I wish I still had those boots!
In 2003, my daughter got married. Travis had deployed to Korea for 18 months. They thought they might get married when he returned. Instead, he called and proposed to her in March. The wedding was set for July 3 when he would be home on his 30 day leave. At the same time he proposed, the war in Iraq broke out.
We decided that I wouldn't sew her dress but I would make the bridesmaids', flower girl's and we would work together on the floral stuff. The wedding was in our back yard/pasture with about 100 people because his family hadn't met our family, and he was home on leave to see everyone! It was a hectic three months!
These were super simple dresses with an overlay. They began with the embroidered valance my mom found on a clearance sale which became the flower girl's skirt.
Now - to Terri's questions about brides and mother of the brides.......
As I said, Sabra and I had jointly agreed that even though she would have liked for me to make her a custom dress - it was going to be way too stressful. So we walked into a mall in the Kansas City area and tried on dresses from the clearance rack. She loved this one. I think it was $225. She wore it all evening, spilling bbq sauce on it and the back hem was full of grass stains. After the wedding, I pre-treated it and threw it in a cold water gentle wash. It looks new and now lives in a bag in my storage room.
I think the bride carries her own beauty and if she is crazy in love and happy - the details of the dress just don't matter much. I worked in a bridal salon for a short while and it seemed to me that the brides that just wanted to marry their lover were focused on getting a dress so they could move on to more important things. Some of the other brides were caught up in game playing with their mothers or fiances or whoever - about money and who loves who the most.
I liked that Sabra wanted to wear a poofy white thing and that she was willing to wear it all evening. Guests enjoy seeing brides in their dresses. It's so rare that we have these happy, happy family celebrations. This is my favorite photo of the day.....
I'm not supposed to be "internetting" about military stuff - but this weekend is time of big change for us again. Please remember our soldiers and their families as we start year ????? what - year seven?? eight? of a war no one really wants. They are still fighting that war everyday. Their lives are in constant turmoil even though other issues seem to have taken priority in the rest of our nation. Lets just say that I would hand over all of my retirement security and stock accounts today if I could trade it for my soldier to be home with his wife and daughter; watching movies and eating snacks in their pj's.